Have you heard about the 5 Love Languages? Prior to reading this book, I’d always assumed everyone expressed love in a pretty similar way. Turns out I was wrong! According to the author, Gary Chapman has identified 5 love languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Every person feels uniquely loved in one of these ways.
For example, my love language is definitely words of affirmation. When someone says something positive or kind to me, it can go a long way! This is also how I tend to show my love and appreciation for others. When Sam and I were dating, I discovered this book, and after much convincing from me, he took the test.
Turns out, his love language is Quality Time. So my verbal affirmations don’t have the same impact on him, as they would on me. When I realised this, it was really eye opening! Even though it doesn’t come completely naturally to me, I know that spending quality time with Sam (no phones, no nothing) has more of an impact on him, then a kind word would.
It completely changed my perspective of our relationship, and it’s something we both work on.
What’s your love language (you can take the test here) and is it different from your partner? I’d love to know! Do you think this would make a difference in how you showed your love and appreciation towards each other going forward? xx
Photo of us by Matt & Katie.